FoxNews and Discovery News have some great news for couples in love - You can stay in love - even for thousands of years!
Let's repeat history!
Rossella Lorenzi from Discovery News recently reported that the skeletal remains of a 1,500 year old couple were found - holding hands facing each other - displaying their ageless, passion of love for each other.
Emilia-Romagna, told Discovery News writes about the discovery, "We believe that they were originally buried with their faces staring into each other."
In a similar fashion, Rosella also reports that i 2007, another couple 5,000 to 6,000 years old was found in Mantua still holding each other close while apparently looking into each others eyes.
Donato Labate, the director of the excavation at the archaeological superintendency of Emilia-Romagna told Discovery News, "The two couples are separated in time by five millennia, and both evoke an uplifting tenderness. I have been involved in many digs, but I've never felt so moved.
What this all boils down to, is that there were those, and are those of us, who despite the volatile tides of lack of commitment and shifting sands of promise-keeping, love and marriage can in fact, last our entire life- even beyond the grave!
It is a true and encouraging discovery that your love does not have to fizzle, die down or slowly fade into a distant relationship.
In fact, according to recent statistics, approximately 2,200,000 get married per year in the U.S.( http://www.infoplease.com/ipa/A0005044.html) '
So the problem does not lie in getting married, or falling in love, but really is in the subsequent time period after the emotions die down and the pinnacle of romance seems to subside. And this is the very time and place where another dynamic of strong, healthy, successful, long-lasting marriages come into play. It's called, "commitment."
Renewal of commitment
Commitment is defined by most Dictionaries as "the action of carrying out a pledge; to bind or pledge to a certain course or policy; to perform a promise; giving loyalty to the other."
Many couples have no firsthand experience in the practice and practicality of the word "commitment" in their own lives and relationship - in fact, many couples sincerely believe that their commitment is relegated to solely their emotions and how they are feeling at that particular time. Of course, we know that marriage and commitment surpasses mere emotions, but it is the lack of commitment that explains why the largest percentage of divorces are recorded with the infamous, "irreconcilable differences."
What would happen if couples followed through to conclusion on their lack of commitment on everything in their life? Let's follow through to conclusion on just a few items in our lives to show this point...
- Their job would be lost.
- Their families and friends would give up on them.
- Their children would no longer trust them.
- Their credit cards or similar would disengage their customer status.
In reality, everything is founded on making commitments, or in a broader, legal sense of the term, a "covenant".
Romance does not have to die!
An anonymous person once said, "Just the thought of being with you tomorrow is enough to get me through today."
When people see us together as husband and wife, many have said that they thought we were still on our honeymoon - the way we stay close, hold hands, stay next to each other and all. While we passed the proverbial "honeymoon phase" many years ago numerically speaking, we have made a … well, a "commitment" to continue our closeness and connection just as if we were still on our honeymoon!
This is but a choice that we all must choose. If we do not choose to make this happen, it does not happen on its own.
Kate Figes from Coupleconnection.com writes, :A goodrelationship is something we achieve; it doesn’t just happen because we love someone, or because we got lucky and found our ‘soul mate’, which is itself a romantic myth."
( http://thecoupleconnection.net/articles/a-good-relationship-doesnt-just-happen )
To infinity - and beyond!
The love we display can surpass our own lives. It is incumbent upon us to look beyond the immediate and here and now, and aggressively affect our future. And, in doing so, we will ultimately affect others in the process.
As the discovery tell us, we can make an "eternal" impact by making our marriage of utmost priority.
Kristina Killgrove, a biological anthropologist at the University of North Carolina summed it up nicely when she said, "Whoever buried these people likely felt that communicating their relationship was just as important in death as it was in life."
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